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Friday, March 21, 2014

Frank D. Cassidy 1923-2014

My father died on the first day of spring, just as the sun was rising — the sun that would be up all day in a cloudless blue sky.

Blue skies were Dad's specialty. Not that he didn't have plenty of storm clouds. But he endured them or ignored them or sometimes just opened his umbrella and danced through the rain.

One of my first and fondest memories of Dad is walking outside with him one morning on a family vacation to Colorado. Dad loved the Rocky Mountains, had spent time in Denver when he was in the service, after he'd flown 35 combat missions over Europe as a tail gunner in a B17 bomber. So as soon as he and Mom had a few dollars in their pocket, they drove my brother and me out west. I was five years old at the time, but I distinctly remember Dad looking up at the whitened peaks and the blue beyond and saying, "Look, there's not a cloud in the sky."

So I looked and saw and remembered — and I learned from his example. I learned that there is almost nothing so dire that it can't be remedied by a good laugh. I learned that you can never tell someone you love them too many times. And finally, to quote a favorite movie of mine, I learned from his life that "no man is a failure who has friends."

Dad was the youngest of six and the last to go. He leaves behind a wife, four children, seven grandchildren, many nieces, nephews and cousins  — and lots and lots of friends. He never knew a stranger.

I write this at an hour when Dad and I, both early risers, would often be up alone together. This is my first morning to wake without him in the world. I have no complaints. He was on this earth for almost 91 years. But I wish he could be here 91 more.